Thinking of leaving the US and starting fresh somewhere else? You’re not alone—and you’re not crazy. But before you book that one-way ticket, here’s what I’ve learned about what can go wrong when you leap before you look.
A few years ago, Eliza sat on the edge of my bed with Google Maps open and typed:
“Best countries to move to from the US.”
It wasn’t a vacation fantasy. It was a real, visceral need—like something in her knew she couldn’t keep doing life the way she was doing it. Maybe you’ve felt it too.
Moving abroad is a huge, meaningful decision. It’s about more than money or visas or packing lists (although those matter too). It’s about how you want to live, who you want to be, and what kind of life you’re building—for yourself or your family.
But there are a few things Eliza wished someone had told her before she started planning. So I’m sharing them here—no drama, no sugarcoating, no sales pitch. Just a grounded look at 3 of the most common mistakes I’ve seen (and sometimes made myself) when people try to move abroad without a clear plan.
1. Assuming You’ll “Figure It Out” After You Arrive
It’s easy to imagine that you’ll land in your new country, fall into the perfect apartment, meet the right people, find income quickly, and adjust naturally.
And sometimes that happens. But often, it doesn’t.
The first few months abroad can feel disorienting and strangely lonely—even when you’re surrounded by beauty. Navigating systems (visas, banks, rentals) in a language you don’t speak fluently can be humbling. Culture shock is real. So is decision fatigue.
A clear plan isn’t about control—it’s about kindness to your future self.
Some helpful questions to reflect on before you go:
- What’s my visa path, and how long does it allow me to stay?
- Do I have a support system—online or offline—in the place I’m going?
- What’s Plan B if something goes sideways in the first 3 months?
Having those answers doesn’t mean everything will go perfectly. But it gives you a foundation to land on.
2. Underestimating the Emotional Labor of Leaving Everything Behind
There’s a part of moving abroad that no one talks about: grief.
Even when you’re excited, you’re still leaving things behind—familiar routines, places that know your name, relationships that live just a few miles away. That kind of leaving takes a toll.
People often think they’re just moving to a new country. But what they’re really doing is leaving behind a version of themselves—and stepping into the unknown.
And the truth is, if you’re moving abroad to escape burnout, loneliness, or dissatisfaction… those feelings may pack themselves right into your suitcase. They don’t vanish when you cross a border.
What helps:
- Give yourself space to mourn and to transition. It’s okay to feel sad and excited.
- Reflect on what you’re moving toward, not just what you’re leaving behind.
- Start grounding yourself now—in community, in clarity, in your inner sense of safety.
3. Romanticizing the “New Life” Without Doing the Inner Work
This one’s tender. So I’ll just say it directly:
Moving abroad can be a beautiful chapter in your life story. But it’s not a shortcut to becoming someone new. You still wake up with your own thoughts, patterns, and nervous system—just in a different time zone.
So many people chase reinvention abroad. And while that’s natural (and often part of the healing), it’s worth asking:
- What parts of me am I hoping will change, once I get there?
- Can I begin some of that transformation now, while I’m still here?
If you’re using the move to come back home to yourself—not run away from yourself—you’re already doing it right.
The Bottom Line?
You don’t need to have everything figured out to move abroad. But you do need to know yourself.
That includes:
- What makes you feel safe and grounded
- How much uncertainty you’re able to tolerate
- What your core needs are—emotional, logistical, financial
- And what you hope this move will really give you
I’ve learned that the best plans aren’t rigid—they’re honest. They’re based on who you are now, and who you’re becoming.
If You’re Just Starting Out
If you’re in the early stages and not sure where to even begin, here are a few gentle steps:
Reflect on why you want to move abroad—not just your frustrations, but your deeper longings.
Research visa options and long-term stay requirements in countries that align with your values.
Connect with others who’ve done this before. Read their stories. Ask questions.
Start building a simple plan: timeline, budget, support system, backup options.
You’re Not Alone
Whether you leave this year or five years from now, I hope you know that you’re not crazy for wanting something different. And you’re not weak for needing help figuring it out.
This community is here for the long haul. For the figuring-it-out, for the starting-over, for the homesickness, for the joy.
And if you’ve already made the leap—or you’re about to—drop a comment and tell us:
🗺️ What’s calling you?
🧭 What are you afraid of?
💬 What’s one thing you wish someone had told you before you left?
Here’s what you can do next:
And if you’d like a little help getting clarity…
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Remember: leaving the US can be a beautiful, life-changing choice. Just don’t let impulse be your travel agent. Let wisdom take the wheel.
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What’s your dream destination? And what’s the one thing you’re most worried about when it comes to moving abroad? Let’s talk about it